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Sometimes you can get swept away in this beautiful world of technology! You don't even have to blog to be affected by it all. If you use any form of social media you know you have found yourself comparing and feeling like you are coming up short. This isn't the first time you have heard about "that side" of blogging. The side that makes you feel inadequate.

A very smart woman once said that "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent," and I truly believe that. The thing is, 99.9% of the time I am encouraged, entertained, and inspired by this wonderful world online, however it is human nature to compare, to judge, and the internet creates vastly more opportunities to do that than we would normally have in our everyday lives. It can become a black hole if we let it.

But is comparing and judging all bad? No, it is there for a reason! There is something totally okay about looking up to someone and realizing you lack in certain areas and deciding to work on those qualities in yourself. But there is a fine line, a balance, you can't let the thoughts take over your life, or make you unhappy.

There have been moments where I found myself "lost." I would see something I loved and started to wonder why I didn't "do that" or "have that" and I realized I was focusing too much on what I loved about everyone else's talents, style, lives and not focusing enough on my own! Before I knew it I was asking my once very confident self, "Who are YOU?"

In high school I had killer confidence, and I let my unique personality shine! I would like to think I haven't totally lost that, however more than ever before I have found myself questioning and trying to figure out who I am, instead of letting it just happen. Just being me.

Maybe I am making no sense at all, but I think this happens a lot with bloggers or people who spend a significant amount of time online. I want to stop caring so much what others will think and stop being so "intentional" about everything. I just want to be myself and have that free-flow confidence I used to have. I want to not care so much if it "fits" into the current popular mold or "esthetic" of the main stream. I am honestly embarrassed that I ever got out of touch of that, but I am happy to say I am realizing it and am going to start implementing changes now.

Who is with me? 

Since I have been dealing with this, I was so excited to team up with my friends at BlogHer and be introduced to the new Cigna GO YOU Facestrument Facebook game. With the use of a webcam you can turn your face into a musical instrument and wink, blink, nod, and smile to the beat of your favorite song. At the end, the user gets a score that reflects how accurately they performed, as well as a video of themselves jamming out to share with friends.

What better way to let loose and be yourself?

Visit the Cigna GO YOU Facestrument Brand Page on BlogHer.com to find more bloggers playing Facestrument!


  1. Oh my, how true are your words! Even 10 minutes on Pinterest can make me crave homes, decor, hair and makeup, my choice of clothes...it's pittiful. I have to remind myself that the things I "need" are eventually going to all burn one day. The color of my coffee table does not feed my spiritual hunger for the Lord, nor grow me in my walk with Him. I can relate to you asking yourself "who am I" after just a brief time surfing the web because I want to be as pretty as that girl, or have her hair cut with that girls dress. it is all too easy to get swept up in this world.

  2. I just re-read Benson's pride talk, so I've been thinking a lot about this.... comparing and judging. I have a hard time, especially now, not wondering how my life would have been different if things beyond my control were different. But I'm seeing the Lord knows my weaknessnes and I need to listen more to him and not the comparing-obsessed inner voice in my head.

    1. I will def have to check out his talk :) thanks for the reminder!

  3. Wow this has got to be the best quote I've come across today: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

    Thanks for sharing it with us. :)

  4. I love this! Thanks for sharing!


  5. I agree with everything above! Whenever I start dong this, I think of the general conference "STOP IT" talk. It really helps. I also shut off whatever I am doing and find something else to do- usually it's read, exercise, or find something so randomly hilarious to TV to just watch for a bit. If I'm home, my husband has a really good insight into when I am about to feel down- he picks me right back up. But, the best thing for me to do is think "STOP IT"!

  6. Love this! Thank you for sharing :)

  7. This is great. Thanks for sharing it. -Hanna

  8. So true, and if only my mind was stronger!
    It's such a weakness and yet we all feel crap after

  9. I think a lot of bloggers (and non-bloggers) go through this too. Honestly, the best thing to do is see the unique things about you that others might not have or wish they had- the graas is always greener they say!

  10. I couldn't agree more! I definitely let myself get caught up in the comparison game and I let myself feel very inadequate! I really need to be more intentional about my thoughts and focus on all the great things in my life!

  11. I loved reading this so much. Its so easy to compare yourself to someone else with this online world we live in - thanks for the reminder to be me!


  12. I really love this - You are so right, Alycia.

  13. I am in the middle of finding my new identity as a stay at home mom. This is inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

  14. Loved this Alycia. It is all about what you believe and it's important to be confident in who you are!

  15. I needed to hear this.
    Jillian - PS, if you have a moment, I'd love to invite you to check out the giveaway we're hosting for a $50.00 giftcard to Shabby Apple!

  16. so true. and so good to hear. so many times i really need to just take a break from it all and remember that my own life rules. :) thanks girl


  17. With you all the way! Thanks for the reminder :) Sometimes I need it.

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