personalities...

 random collection of me & my personality throughout the years :)

I talk a lot. Well isn't that breaking news ;) I have always been a very outgoing, talkative, and some might even say loud person. My personality has always been that of a social butterfly and you will usually find me with friends talking away and laughing my head off. I am pretty much as opposite of a wall flower as you can get.

The thing about personalities is it is something about ourselves that we can't totally change. With each personality comes advantages and disadvantages, and as we get older we learn more and more about them and how we can try and take the weaknesses in our personalities and make them stronger. 

For example, despite my personality being one usually tied with confidence, and I would say overall I am a very confident person, I can get nervous. I get nervous when meeting new people because I want them to like me. I mean, who doesn't want to be liked, right?

But seeing that I already talk a lot, what do I do when I am nervous?... talk even more. So when that is matched up next to someone who doesn't talk a lot, or someone who lets a more aggressive personality take over, I can end up taking up most of the conversation. It isn't that I want to be the only one talking, but when I am nervous, if you don't start talking as well, I am going to fill that space.

I always expect that the other person is going to start talking as much as me, but that doesn't always happen because we all have different personalities and not everyone is going to do what I do. This is something about myself that I am very aware of and have been since middle school. I try really hard to not do it, but sometimes it happens anyways. At the end of the day there are always things we are trying to work on and improve on ourselves, right?

Usually after we have hung out a handful of times, I relax and am not so hyped up or worried about what the other person thinks of me. Fortunately for me I have surrounded myself with amazing and forgiving people. People who gave me a chance and give me some time and have found that once I relax a bit the talking turns into more listening. I have a group of very dear friends that I could, and have, pour my soul too. We all have different personalities, yet we understand each other and admire the good things in each other which makes it work.

One thing that I have found women do to each other, is criticize each other for the weaknesses in their personalities. Which is ironic because we all have them! I wrote a previous post about our intentions with people and felt this related. If people could just sit back and try to think about a person's intention, and what their nature is, they wouldn't get nearly as offended as people seem to do.

As women (since my readership is about 99.9% women haha) I wish we could be a little more forgiving with each other and realize we are all trying to better ourselves in different areas, and that for the most part, people just want to be friends with you. 

No one is perfect, and I don't expect my friends to be, nor would I want them to expect that from me! But thankfully, if you surround yourself with women and friends who understand that, I think we will find ourselves with people who love us, and uplift us.

I am just feeling really grateful and blessed today for the amazing women I call my friends. For the friends that have been there to support, cry and laugh with me when I needed it.

There is nothing better then a genuine love for another person and wishing them well, and getting that back in return, because that is what true friendship is.