I hardly ever get negative, mean comments on my actual blog. Most of it comes from a site called Get Off My Internets, a forum for people to discuss bloggers. Unlike a lot of bloggers, I personally don't think this site is all bad. People just want a space to freely discuss what they think about a blogger and their content. But sometimes, the line is crossed. Crossing the line always happens on the internet, people feel invincible behind their computer screens. They are less accountable, and they become more willing to say things they would never say to your face. When that happens, you can see the true nasty side of people. But it is kind of a catch-22, because you also get to see what people really think, how they really feel about you. That can be incredibly insightful information. You can learn a lot about yourself when you see what people say anonymously or freely. If you approach criticism or "haters" as some might call them with this mentality, you can really learn a lot. Unfortunately for the most part people aren't offering up any great insight or riveting advice for the blogger to learn from. Most of it is petty, rude, and down right hilarious.
So how do you deal?
If I see someone has totally misunderstood my intention, or read into something completely wrong, I take note for next time to make sure I explain more thoroughly. And when it applies, I really do try and learn from constructive criticism. I feel like everyone has to be open to seeing their flaws if they want to become a better person. By the age of twenty five I am pretty sure I know what a lot of mine are, and as I get older I am sure I will discover many more. It doesn't mean I love to see other people point them out, especially strangers, but I put myself out there on a public forum, and I feel like I can handle it. Some people can't handle it, and for them I suggest they live a more private life. And remember, it is what the people close to you in your real life think, that really matters.
Speaking of life, I would also suggest that people remember that the internet is not that. The internet is not your life, or at least, it shouldn't be. This blog is a small facet of my life. It is a fun outlet that I enjoy, but I truly thrive and enjoy spending my time with my family, friends, and loved ones. Don't worry so much about what people say or do on the internet, focus on your real world. Embrace your life, LIVE life offline.