Trevor works so hard and puts so much value into how well he does in school. Thankfully every semester in law school has been great news for him. He just gets better each time, and this semester was no different. In fact he actually reached a goal he set for himself from day one of law school. Honestly I know it sounds dumb but I was so proud of him I got teary eyed on the phone when he was telling me. I so wish I could have been there in person to give him a big hug and kiss, and tell him how proud I am of him. Using the word proud just doesn't do my feelings justice when it comes to Trevor.
Before I met Trevor I always knew I had potential to be better then I was, but I cared more about having fun. I would stay out with friends until 4:00 a.m. and put off studying to be social. Then I met Trevor. He was so diligent and hardworking and hanging out and having fun always came after his responsibilities. And because of this he had a whole host of different talents and accomplishments. He was proficient on guitar, he had impeccable grades, all while managing a full time job. Yet he would go out all the time with his friends and was always having fun. Somehow he managed it all. He had it all.
My immature nineteen year old self was impressed by him, and as we started dating his mentality began to rub off on me. Trevor taught me the value of working hard, and playing harder. Trevor made me want to be a better person. Trevor saw value in me that I had been ignoring in myself. To this day Trevor pushes me. He pushes me to do things that make me uncomfortable because he knows I can be great. When we met I felt like he saw me so differently then I saw myself. Yet after almost four years of marriage I am happy to say that I now see myself differently. I see what he sees. I expect more from myself.
We have one more year left of law school, and after that I have no idea what will come next. It is a strange feeling. When we got married I knew that school was what we would be doing for awhile, so to be moving into a new chapter is exciting and intimidating all at the same time. Trevor and I are starting to make plans for what comes next and it just has me emotional. I have grown so much in my marriage with him. The type of growth I could have never done alone this fast.
People like to make comments and judgements about getting married young. Truth is, there is no secret age to get married at to determine a successful marriage. It all just has to do with the specific individuals in the marriage. I feel that being married to Trevor has helped me come into my own. I feel more myself right now then I ever have in my entire life.
As we move forward and prepare this next year for the unknown, I am excited for the endless possibilities for us. Every year with him just gets better and better and it is exciting to feel that way about your own life. Sure we have had a lot of growing pains along the way, and there will be plenty more... yet I can't wait. I can't wait to do it with him. I look forward to what life has to offer us, and know that with Trevor by my side we will take full advantage of every opportunity.
I am just so thankful to my Heavenly Father for who Trevor is, who I am, and what we are together.
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this is such a sweet post. i love what you and trevor have together and i love reading your words about success, empowerment, and independence in your marriage. i think a lot of young couples--all couples--focus solely on their together-growth. the best kind of relationships help you grow as individuals as well as a couple.
ReplyDeletemazel tov to trevor on reaching his goal! you both have such incredible opportunities ahead of you.
xo nicole
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Thanks Nicole :)!
DeleteThis is such a beautiful, sweet post, Alycia.
ReplyDeleteAs a former law student's wife, I completely empathize with everything you just wrote. When we were going through this, I hardly wrote about it at all because it was so hard to articulate. But you did it perfectly. To be proud of a law student is an understatement. Your man is lucky to have you and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteOh man, no one understand the law school life as much as another fellow law school wife :) I appreciate it!!
DeleteAmazing post. Hanna
ReplyDeleteLove reading about your care for your husband. It is evident how much you love him. I hope to one day find a man that I truly care for as you care for yours. Thanks for your honesty!
ReplyDeleteI have no doubts you will Rachel!!! :)
DeleteBeautiful post. And I think you are right- there is no magical age to get married. Some people need it earlier, some people need to experience other things before they are able to give to a marriage.
ReplyDeleteLoved reading this Alycia! Me and my husband got married at 20 turning 21 and I wouldn't have had it any other way, too! I always thought I would get married later in life, but I met Ryan at 17 and there was no turning back :) I LOVED what you said about growing more, and more quickly, because you're with Trevor. I have said that many times about my marriage to Ryan when people have asked about whether I thought getting married young was right for us. We push each other to be better and there is no doubt in my mind that I am a better, more refined, more disciplined and happy person because he is in my life. I'll never have everything figured out and I hope I'll always work towards personal growth and improvement. That said, I am happy that so much of the growth and improvement I had hoped for myself has happened a little earlier on and (*perhaps*) more graciously thanks to the tremendous man I'm walking through life with. Happy for you, lady!
ReplyDeleteHappy to hear you have experienced that same kind of awesome progress and happiness in your marriage :)!!!
DeleteBeautiful! I hope to find someone like this for myself so that I can be all mushy about that person =)
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful post! I feel like I could have written the same thing about my Boyfriend, Greg. Like, word for word. Haha.
ReplyDeleteHe is currently working on his Masters of Fine Arts in Lighting Design and he is away for the summer Designing. Last night one of his shows opened and I was talking to him about how successful it was. I got a great big lump in my throat just hearing about it, I am just so proud of him.
It sounds like he has a very similar work ethic as Trevor, and I am definitely growing every day thanks to him.
Thanks for a great post. It definitely gave me a good smile :)
Glad I could put a smile on your face maggie, I feel like everyone should feel this way about their partner :)!
DeleteThat second paragraph is EXACTLY how I feel. My husband has also taught me a lot about how to be better, and do more, and be happier. We are soooo lucky to have found men like that.
ReplyDeleteYES WE ARE!!!
DeleteSuch a beautiful post. I completely agree that there is no "right age" to get married. I actually wish I got married at a younger age so that I could have been a mom at a younger age too.
ReplyDeleteYay for Trevor, glad he is doing well in law school!
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Kelly
Sparkles and Shoes
so beautiful!
ReplyDeletethis is one of my fav pics on your blog...love your sweater!
Love this!
ReplyDeleteSo sweet. When I came across your blog and read it from the beginning I was a little wary coming across the post where you got married since you were so young, but my perspective has changed substantially seeing your marriage progress through the blog. You were young when you got married, but I've come to realize that age matters so much less than being ready. My parents got married reallllly late in life and they want me to get married younger because they don't know what took them so long! Seeing both perspectives has been really wonderful. I think you're so mature (but fun-loving) and, as much as you have personally progressed, your personality and what makes you YOU is still there which I love. I don't mean for this to sound like I know you (or your marriage) super-well or that I'm judgemental so I hope it doesn't come across like that.
ReplyDeleteJulia, I really appreciated your comment :) It is nice to hear what people can see from our little ol' blog! I love that marrying Trevor enhanced who I am, I think those are always the best kind of relationships!
DeleteLove. So wonderful to have hardworking, loving husbands who make you want to be a better person all together. What a blessing. Congrats to Trevor for meeting his goal!
ReplyDeleteTrevor has seen the potential I've always seen :) You've always been amazing!! I love that you and Trevor compliment each other and help each other to be the best you can be :) I'm proud of Trevor and how hard he works in law school and I'm proud of you and the support you give him even if it means you are alone a lot. You are both making sacrifices for him to be successful :)
ReplyDeleteLoved this! Thank you for sharing such beautiful memories with all of us. My husband and I have been married for two years and we got married when I was 21 and he was 20. I do blog about our arguments and the topics we argue about because I feel that other young couples can relate. In a frustrated blog post over something completely unrelated, a blogger commented saying that she always rolls her eyes at young couples that get married and have arguments or fights. It was such a slap in my face, especially since having gotten married at young age often presents a different array of issues than getting married in your 30s. I always feel a bond to other bloggers who got married young because we share that commonality. I really appreciated reading this post and I hope your spouse loved reading it as well :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the sweet comment Kimberly! I always think it is wildly inappropriate for people to comment on others marriages. With the divorce rate over 50% at this point, it is evident there is no "secret" to guarantee a "successful" marriage. It is SO individual! I appreciate you blog honestly about marriage and expose the good and the bad :) We all can relate to that!
DeleteWhat a lovely post, it is good when we find the right man someone who completes us.......
ReplyDeleteI could have written this post myself! My husband graduated from law school last month and it is SUCH a strange feeling to be done (or to realize you're so close to the end). He's been going to school since we started dating 6.5 years ago! I also know what you mean about your spouse really helping mold who you are as a person when you get married young. When I got married four years ago, I was 20 and my husband was 24 and I always tell him that I feel like he has really changed who I am as a person. I really enjoyed this post! Congrats on being 2/3 of the way done!
ReplyDeleteBreanne, who knew we had so much in common?! I got married when I was 20 and Trevor was 24 :) And obviously we are going through the whole law school thing too! :) Always nice to find some commonalities with people huh?!
DeleteThis was such a touching post! You have a great partner in Trevor! I don't know if we can really ask for anything more than a husband that makes us want to be better, right?!
ReplyDeleteLauren
Fizz and Frosting
Exactly :)!!
DeleteThis is so sweet. My husband does the same stuff to me. He's pushy, but in a way that makes me better. And I love him all the more for it.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post! I'm so happy for you! It sounds like you and Trevor really are just a perfect match. Can't see what's in store for the two of you next!
ReplyDeleteSarah @ Life As Always
So beautiful! You are a lucky girl :)
ReplyDeleteSo sweet! Husbands are the best. It makes me so uncomfortable to get out of my comfort zone, but my husband is like yours and likes to push me out of it :) I never regret it afterwards!
ReplyDeleteCan't wait for 3L year to start and finish. We're almost there! (Just gotta get through summer internships and clerkship applications. Blah.)
ReplyDeleteDUDE, SAME BOAT RIGHT NOW! haha :) We can do it!!
DeleteCongrats on almost finishing up with law school! I wish I could say the first three years of law practice will be better... No one unfortunately understands law school life more than the former law student! Hahah. I think that a relationship that can survive law school is a relationship that can survive in general. My husband was so supportive during my three years and now I am returning the favor to him as he is finishing up with a full-stress sheriff academy. Wow, is all I can say about this new experience. Cheers to happy and healthy marriages!!
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